Today while I was meditating in the morning I realised how my mind is naturally gravitating towards what has gone awry in the past. This automatically creates more worry, withdrawal/freeze in taking decisions and actions.
This is exactly the same as driving a car, looking for 90% of the time in the back mirror, because some day in the past someone drove into my back bumper. The problem is, however, that I am driving forward…
I realised that I am in a limbo state, that creates more limbo. Living a life without excitement and plans is not fun at all. Then I remembered what Jesse Itzler does. It’s called the Calendar Club, and technically it’s about zooming out, mapping your whole year upfront with things, experiences, trips, important dates that you are looking forward to.
This is so simple, and genius at the same time.
See, what people like Jesse do, they constantly move forward. They do tons of things, which surely can cause tons of mistakes, bumps in the road etc. But they don’t have the time to stop and dwell on something that happened a month ago, or someone said something that hurt their feelings.
No, they move forward.
If you don’t have things you are looking forward to in your year, quarter, month, day then you will get into the limbo zone. And this is like going into the waiting room of life.
And this whole realisation happened, just because 2 days ago I asked myself few questions, inspired by Dain Heer. Dain is a founder of Access Consciousness and Author of few books, ie “Being you changing the World” – which in depth explains his approach with asking open ended questions, POD& POCKING and Access Consciousness.
The questions were:
->What else is possible I have never considered here?
->What is it going to take to change this?
->What would it take for a miracle to show here?
->How does it get any better than this?
It’s literally insane how powerful asking RIGHT, OPEN-ENDED QUESTIONS is, and NOT TRYING TO ANSWER THEM IMMEDIATELY. You just ask, and go about your day, not forcing the answer… And when an Idea/human/opportunity appears you act. That’s it. It’s that simple.
Thinking about your future is exciting. Very exciting!
The framework I use inspired by Vishen Lakhiani, founder of Mindvalley, and is called Areas of Life. 13 of them to be exact.
Here are all of them:
1.Health & Fitness
2.Love Relationships
3.Family
4.Friendships & Social
5.Environments
6.Adventures & (New) Experiences
7.Intellectual
8.Skills
9.Spiritual
10.Career/Work
11.Creative Expression
12.Money
12.Contribution
There are different approaches to use it. You can Zoom out big time and apply it in the scope of your whole life, 30 years, 20 years, 10 years, 7 years, 3 years, 1 year, quarterly and weekly
If you don’t have a grand vision for your life, that’s cool. You can zoom in a bit more and focus on the next 7 years. Then do the 1 year and quarterly and weekly.
When I started writing down What do I want to experience this year, I became IMMEDIATELY Excited. The fear/anxiety from the past disappeared in a split second, as if Harry Potter would do Evanesco spell on it.
It’s pretty simple.
Ask yourself what do you want to do this year in those above mentioned 13 areas of Life.
Write them down.
If there are events, parties, important dates, mark them in your calendar, so When you look on the yearly view, you can see them.
Book and pay the events you want to join in ASAP, ideally NOW.
Put everything in your calendar and put the Yearly Calendar in a visible place, that you can see it every day.
Enjoy the excitement for your life. And every time your mind gets to the past, being anxious, you just take a look what is going to happen in your life in the upcoming future.
Jay Bialecki – You are awesome!